‘Success’ is a word that means different things to different people. Does success equate money? Making a difference? Freedom? Happiness? When I’m in the thick of the daily grind of work, family, and chores I think a lot about how success is all wrapped up in money. It has to be, right? Why am I working so hard if it’s not to make more money? Hmmm…
Not until I step back and look at the bigger picture of my life do I start to actually believe that happiness, truly being happy, is the biggest success of all.
I saw this Gene Wilder quote this week and it resonated so deeply. If you do what you love, success is inevitable. You’ll have enough money, freedom, happiness, and at the very least you’ll be making a difference in your own life.
Finding something that you love to do doesn’t always come easily, especially if you get wrapped up in what you think you should do. (Guilty of that over here!) You can sustain that for a while, should-ing all over yourself, but then it starts to take a toll on your mood, your behavior, your treatment of others and yourself, and even on your physical and mental health. Maybe doing what you love is such a success because it requires self-awareness and honesty. It’s sometimes necessary to tune out everything around you and focus on what your heart and mind is saying, not society’s.
I’ve found that if I ask myself the following question, I can get to a place of happiness:
Am I loving this?
It’s a simple question, and asking it allows me to be honest and make a change if I answer no. Sometimes the change takes a few days or even weeks to set in. Often it requires a restructuring of our routine. But getting on the road to making that change and working toward loving what I’m doing feels like a relief. Like happiness is close.
What do you do to find happiness? What does it mean to be successful to you?